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Alex Clare – Too Close

Alex Clare has found the next progression of man, and that “progression” is the ability to verbalize what you feel in the gut of your stomach, truthfully.  He’s breaking up with his partner the way any man should the minute he becomes tired of being in the moment with them, yet for the most part, it’s something that most men are very seldom able to do.  It’s not that we aren’t able to effectively communicate it out of any particular malicious intent or spite.  It’s quite honestly, most times, because we hate to see the people that we care for in any kind of pain.  Even when it means that we have to ourselves live miserably in secret, but in the end, time is the most unpredictable factor we as human beings have to deal with, and a moment wasted in misery is a moment of “life” wasted away.  For Alex honesty is the fastest way out of a situation no one wants to be in.

Alex has recognized a pattern in his life here and in his past which he has decided to get himself out of by just being honest with his emotions and communicating it so to his partner.  He let’s us know this with the specific lyrics:

I can’t lie no more, I can’t hide no more, Got to be true to myself” 

He’s recognized that by continuing in the old pattern(s) he’s just setting himself up for the ultimate lie, which is quite simply, the lie(s) that one tells themselves and leads themselves to actually believe in order to forget the truth, which as we all know can be so hurtful.

And it feels like I am just too close to love you”

“Too close to love” is when you get so comfortable and so used to a certain situation that the situation becomes stagnant.  It ends up as another boring cycle in itself which has nothing more to offer, and which you, have nothing more to offer it.  It’s a moment that you already seem to know the outcome of, so like a movie that you have watched a thousand times, you decide that this time it’s time to go to sleep instead, or maybe watch another movie that you haven’t seen yet.  It’s a moment when there is more care than any actual love because we define and relate “love” with the feelings and emotions involved with extreme fondness.  I love you but I’m not in love with you.  That type of deal if that’s easier to grasp.

You’ve given me more than I can return, Yet there’s oh so much that you deserve.”

Ultimately, it takes a really strong person to recognize the fact that you are hurting someone else and wasting their time and life away by not being honest with yourself.  It takes extreme strength actually, because at the end of the day their pains become yours as well, even if they refuse to believe that a break up hurts you as much as it does them.  It’s never easy to let a partner go.  They have come to know some of the most intimate parts of you and you some of the most intimate parts of them.  You have come to know one another’s vulnerabilities because you have allowed one another the access to do so.  One part of you has hope that somehow, magically, we can make it work, and another part is simply tired of wasting the time away “hoping”.  The days go by and nothing changes.  The months and the years sneak up rather fast as well, and then it just becomes harder and harder to handle as you somehow find parts of your mind more and more committed to one another.  It’s that sense of commitment and responsibility that also contributes to keeping us in an equation that has no solution sometimes.

I’ve nothing to give, I must live without you”

Understand that we have the ability to see new things everyday.  We don’t have to keep going to the same restaurants all the time.  We don’t have to go to the same bars, and meet with the same people, and go to the same damn places on vacation.  That’s also boring in itself.  Yes you may love these places and things, but your holding yourself back from the essence of humanity, which is the curiosity and exploration of all things we see and especially the ones we cannot see yet.  By nature we are curious.  We want to see what’s at the end of the horizon.  We want to know what’s at the top of that mountain and above it if we can.  We are intrigued by whatever could be at the bottom of the ocean, or lurking in those caves.  It’s in this same manner of exploration that we need to realize that love is something to be explored and not imprisoned by.  ‘How do you know that you have had the best flavor of ice cream, if you haven’t tried them all?’  Love is the same way, or at least it can be, but you need to stop giving yourselves limits and you need to not only free your mind in order to continue the search, you also have to free your heart from the shackles of love that you yourself have latched onto it.

“Love” with all your passion when you love someone and don’t ever hold back.  Toss the past in the past and leave it there.  Walk away from it and take another road never coming back to it and even forgetting that the road itself even exists.  Don’t wear the same clothes you wore yesterday to remind you of that particular time.  It is much better to wear nothing at all so that you have zero to fear and hide.  If it doesn’t get reciprocated then it’s just not the love for you and you must move on.  You move on because you recognize that this particular pattern will lead you to a road that you have already been on, and why walk that way when there are so many roads left undiscovered.

You know we’re headed separate ways
So I’ll be on my way
At the end of it all, you’re still my best friend.”

Alex Clare – Too Close