The world is full of people that just don’t know how to listen to the words of others. Eventually, these people find themselves in relationships with other human beings, and within those relationships they tend to find themselves in trouble. Not the kind of trouble that is unfixable, just the kind that starts fights or creates resentment within those unions. The reason always reverts back to the simple fact that they just don’t know how to listen.
Last week my friend Erv came over to my place to talk about some issues in his latest relationship. He couldn’t grasp why it seemed that his partner was steering clear of him more and more as the days went by. During the evening I discovered that he was rude to her and even compared her to his ex, which is a no-no. I mean, why bring up someone from your past and compare them to someone from your now when it’s completely pointless and irrelevant, right? Anyway, that was just one part of something we found while scratching the surface. His problems ran a little deeper.
Erv had taken his girl to dinner the night before. He spend a total of $300, and when they got home she fell asleep on him. He felt a bit annoyed because he assumed and had anticipated having some sex. His frustration made him question her love. Aside from the obvious issues of putting a price tag on some ass, and then getting frustrated by it, his problem came from not listening to what she wanted. Many times she has asked him to do small things for her. For example, whenever she goes out to the grocery store or the supermarket she brings him back a little gift. Usually it’s a small container of his favorite ice cream, or a six pack of his favorite beer; something that he will love and appreciate. Does he do the same with her? You guessed it: No. Instead he figured that one $300 meal would make up for all those times that he did not come home with a $10 trinket…
And it’s drivin’ me crazy, but what more can I do?
I am so fed up losin’ sleep ova you”
All we have to do sometimes is listen to exactly what our significant others tell us. We cannot go out and do extravagant and unexpected things for them because we want something out of it; that is when we will get frustrated and annoyed. Why do something for someone else in the first place if the reason your are doing it for is for your own gains? What’s the point really. Instead, we need to learn to communicate and discuss things so that we are never caught under the assumptions that things will last forever, or that who you planned to live with for the rest of your life changes on you. Holding on to these ideas that we ourselves have put into our own minds without any merit is merely unhealthy for you and everyone else around you. It shows that your fantasies are lived selfishly and supremely entitled, and that will come around one day to slap you in the face right when you least expect it or want it.
Why are we becoming something different?
Than what I predicted?
Holding on to nothing
I’m holding on to you”
I guess the point of it all is that relationships are a puzzle to be figured out, and that if you don’t allow yourself to see the proper pieces to the puzzle then you will NEVER ever figure it out. Sometimes, in order to see all of the pieces of a puzzle in their proper form, all we need to do is listen.