I’m in a very interesting place right now in my life because I’m in a complete state of flux. My business is changing, my love life has been a total mess forever and that’s changing, I’m certainly changing, my friends are all changing and though it’s unnerving, it’s also quite beautiful and fascinating. I mean change is the only thing that’s constant right? It’s only scary when you’re not focused on getting better because no matter how the flux feels, those rough emotions will themselves subside as you focus on higher truths.
I hung out with one of my old New York friends Antoine Karl and having gone through major changes in his own life he reminded my of one of his recent newsletter post about the beautiful Banks song aptly titled Change. I won’t put out his business here but after a wonderful evening his experience with the song resonated so much that I knew I had to share it with you guys. This song in particular is about the promise of change. We’ve all been in those relationships where our significant other does something to hurt us or we do something to hurt them and then everything falls apart. Someone then feels the sorrow needs to stop and tried to end it. The other than promises to change and for a myriad of reasons the offended party accepts the proposal and the cycle begins again.
The truth is though that the guilt the offender feels is only temporary and if that person isn’t truly and deeply understanding of their actions they will revert to the default human setting, i.e. “the world revolves around me and why should I be sorry for anything, it’s my right to do whatever I want and if someone doesn’t understand it’s their problem.” We’re all pretty much guilty of this type of thinking because it truly is the most basic, default human programming. In nerdy computer language it’s our machine code and it takes no effort at all to exist on that plane. Change however happens on a higher plane, and it is fundamentally impossible to do when you think the world revolves around you, it just won’t happen that way. Honestly, this subject deserves much more time than I have right now but it’s something that’s been on my mind after that amazing dinner with my old French buddies so I had to share. Great jam for your Sunday evening, enjoy.