Misterwives – Reflections (Gryffin Remix)

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A little over two weeks ago I met this beautiful person while hanging with some close friends at The Spare Room, one of my favorite spots in Hollywood. In the sea of people I felt compelled to not be shy as I gravitated to this particular energy and suddenly found myself talking about my intense wheat, dairy, sugar, processed food and alcohol free lifestyle, I went on about my new-found obsession with reductionism, music and all the other things you’re not supposed to talk about when you meet a pretty girl…

I got no game it’s just some bitches understand my story.” – NaS

Long story short, the vibe to which I gravitated was real and I met another soul on a spiritual journey that seemed to parallel my own in many ways. For weeks we hung out, went on day trips, talked about the true nature of things, shared music, knowledge and enjoyed the new friendship. The bittersweet part about it is that when we met she was already in transition about to move to NYC so however wonderful our time was, the days were numbered from the start. Yesterday she went to see her family and this Thursday she moves to the Big Apple. Traditionally these things would make a person sad but you realize that when you meet kindred spirits there’s no such thing. Instead of saying goodbye in sadness or anger it was a beautiful wishing for the best and see you when I see you. We’ll remain good friends and at the very least I’ll have a spiritual sister for life.

Reflections. This song has been around for a while but Gryffin has completely reinvented it and bought it to the Space Age. I love it’s meaning because it’s about things that could be something but remain the same due to repetition of patterns, uncertainty and the overall in-between. The middle is the place that does a lot and a little, it’s the easiest place to be in and the hardest to get out of. It’s where you let things slide and never forgive actions get hall passes only to create more problems in the end…

My recent experience was a fearless departure from the in-between; an existence free of doubt where two people truly brought out the best versions of each other. Those were two weeks of hope for me. To meet someone with such a beautiful disposition, full of light and showing limitless capacity for growth makes you feel good about the idea of a significant other. In this world of insecurity, vindictiveness and fear you can easily forget what that relationship is really about. Saying goodbye was tough but how much more wonderful it is to reflect on the passing of something beautiful than something miserable. Note to self, life should always be this way, enjoy.


MisterWives – Money On My Mind (Sam Smith Cover)

Here are some questions to start this thought.

What do you want?

Why are you doing what you do?

Both of these lead to the bigger question, what are you getting out of it? What is your reward? I recently did a study on reward systems in the workplace (riveting  I know). What kind of reward are you after? Most people are searching for something extrinsic like more money or something tangible. Or are you are in it for the intrinsic pay-off, the feeling of empowerment or the recognition? When you are sitting at a desk or behind the counter, we all reflect on this moment at some point or another. If you get your reward, will it be enough?

Aside from playing this Sam Smith cover on repeat, these questions have beckoned an answer in my mind. When you look at what you gave up to get closer to what you want, was it worth it? Was the payoff there? D0 you just want more? Of course, this might not have anything to do with your job or career or professional whatever you are doing, it goes beyond that.

The saying is when you do what you want, you never work a day. But to get to what you want, how many minutes, hours, days, decades are you will willing to give up for it?


MisterWives swoons in this Sam Smith cover. The vocals smooth and howl  through each verse. The lyrics of the song point out that this reward is not for money. It’s not for anyone else even.  The reward is enlightenment. It’s release. It’s heaven. We should all be in search of our reward. Although I am looking for the big pay-off.

When I signed my deal
I felt pressure
Don’t wanna see the numbers
I wanna see heaven
You say, could you write a song for me?
I say, I’m sorry I won’t do that happily

There will be a moment when business school, two jobs, long commutes, and self-doubt pay off. But at this point, I got money on my mind.

MisterWives – Money On My Mind (Sam Smith Cover)