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Banks – You Should Know Where I’m Coming From

Monday night I went to have a drink with a friend at the pub. Both of us came from our day jobs which are in banks in Shoreditch, but we are both dating people in Clapham so the destination is generally this bar that always has seats a bit out of town and £15 bottles of wine. Wine nights always feel more honest. Before the first glass was half gone, we we are already getting to the grittier girl talk.

Her situation was about a somewhat recent sweetheart who has been getting texts from a girl. He showed her. She acted fine with it and he continues to be open about it. But there is the little green monster. Which I think most girls fear the most.  The green eyed monster is jealousy and by definition is the emotion you have when you feel insecure that you are about to loss something of great value to you. In language today, envy and jealousy are nearly synonymous and both have a negative connotation as far as emotions go. Yet, the idea is that when you feel one- it is more of a fear of loosing rather than wish someone was without.

This wine fuelled honesty about relationships came together as we played devil’s advocate. But as much as you try to be empathetic/understanding there is nothing like the flip in your stomach you feel in those instances. It is not in all relationships but remembered this feeling from my boyfriend at 18, you feel almost dirty or ashamed for hating the person who is texting or calling. But the end conclusion of this was we don’t plan to stop texting our friends or guys so we can’t expect our lovers to. But really, why would you want your partner to only interact with you?

This whole bit then led to the conversation of are we really supposed to be with just one person for our whole lives? We evolve in our friend groups (miss you old friends) and our surroundings. Whys do we think that loving someone can’t evolve as well. I just really got hung up on this. Some guys friends joined soon after this kicked off and the conversation was astonishingly pretty unanimous. We all had the idea of love. The want for it, but all believed that we are able to love and belong to more than one person in life. The social norm of finding the one and getting married and that is it – is a bit dated (and not bad at all, just a different path). But this new train of thought on the idea of relationships being more of something you can do through life is sort of frowned upon. But why? This is an honest feeling.  Why is it that we put such a high premium on the one and life when we can evolve or explore more? Why is this looked at like it is a lesser love? Just because your love with someone didn’t last forever doesn’t discredit it, or make it less. It makes it the perfect bit in a life of perfect little bits.

I don’t know. I think when you ask this question to people you get some interesting answers back. Although this was a girl talk topic, I think we have evolved alot from the “Does he like me” context.

I love this song by Banks. I listened to it alot this past week and it fits this whole thing so well. I think when you have the doubt that there is one person, you worry about hurting people more. Because you care about this person. I hurt when they hurt. I laugh when they do. And I’m scared because being with them now is the best, but I remember a quote I heard when I will younger, “It is easy to change a mind, it is hard to change a belief. One lives in the mind and the other in the heart.” As much as one sounds like a good idea, you know what you believe and the door is not as far as you think. Sweet, sweet Banks.

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Banks – Drowning (Glass Animals Remix)

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The current trend in music appears to point all signs to female sirens singing the tragic tales of love. Lana del Rey, Lorde, Birdy, and Daughter are a few who come to mind who could have all been friends or dated the same guy. But if you ask any girl, we have all dated him.

Even if we are not anymore, there is something about all of these girls and their sad songs that keeps us all pining for more. I feel like it must be something we all do when you get dumped or stood up or pulled around, that you immediately put on that mix. The one that lets you feel sad because you want to. The sane thing would obviously be to listen to happy music and think happy thoughts. I think most people are little masochistic though. There is something we all get from it. Picking the scabs of those emotions. Sharing the battle scars from lovers.

This remix takes the wickedly dark and catchy track from BANKS and spins it into realness. Glass Animals have been getting quite a reputation around London with their not-to-be-missed live shows and ability to get you grooving to a sad song. Dave Baylay from Glass Animals released this track and the outcome is some funky instrumental getting you up and BANKS vocals bringing you down.

So add this one to your break-up mix.

Banks – Drowning (Glass Animals Remix)

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BANKS – Change (Dream Koala Remix)

I’m in a very interesting place right now in my life because I’m in a complete state of flux. My business is changing, my love life has been a total mess forever and that’s changing, I’m certainly changing, my friends are all changing and though it’s unnerving, it’s also quite beautiful and fascinating. I mean change is the only thing that’s constant right? It’s only scary when you’re not focused on getting better because no matter how the flux feels, those rough emotions will themselves subside as you focus on higher truths.

I hung out with one of my old New York friends Antoine Karl and having gone through major changes in his own life he reminded my of one of his recent newsletter post about the beautiful Banks song aptly titled Change. I won’t put out his business here but after a wonderful evening his experience with the song resonated so much that I knew I had to share it with you guys. This song in particular is about the promise of change. We’ve all been in those relationships where our significant other does something to hurt us or we do something to hurt them and then everything falls apart. Someone then feels the sorrow needs to stop and tried to end it. The other than promises to change and for a myriad of reasons the offended party accepts the proposal and the cycle begins again.

The truth is though that the guilt the offender feels is only temporary and if that person isn’t truly and deeply understanding of their actions they will revert to the default human setting, i.e. “the world revolves around me and why should I be sorry for anything, it’s my right to do whatever I want and if someone doesn’t understand it’s their problem.” We’re all pretty much guilty of this type of thinking because it truly is the most basic, default human programming. In nerdy computer language it’s our machine code and it takes no effort at all to exist on that plane. Change however happens on a higher plane, and it is fundamentally impossible to do when you think the world revolves around you, it just won’t happen that way. Honestly, this subject deserves much more time than I have right now but it’s something that’s been on my mind after that amazing dinner with my old French buddies so I had to share. Great jam for your Sunday evening, enjoy.

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Banks – Before I Ever Met You

A few nights ago, I was driving home from the airport. The 50-minute drive is one straight, flat highway through Oklahoma’s countryside. How does one survive a drive like that alone? Music, baby. I was all jazzed up from my trip to New Orleans (see what i did there?), where I was constantly exposed to sweet sounds throughout the city. So as I set out on the road that night, I wanted to be adventurous with my music choice. I felt in the mood for something new. I put on a random mixtape from the wondrous music paradise of the internet, and was off. A few songs down the road, I wasn’t really feeling it.. Nothing was hitting me right. My mind was wandering, and I wondered, “What is it about a song that makes me want to save it for good? To ‘like’ or ‘star’ it? To add it to my Recent Beats playlist?”

…You may be wondering what I’m getting at…

Banks’s “Before I Ever Met You” has whatever it is. It’s a head nodder that you want to keep playing. You want to save it for later; put it in that vault of feel-good music you have stored on your iPod.

Within the first 4 seconds I’m intrigued by the faint sounds slowly pulsating behind her voice. The beat kicks in and she shortly follows. Her smooth voice is my center of attention, but as the song continues, I unconsciously start tapping my foot as my head bobs to the mellow beat. It’s something that would be perfect for a solo ride in the middle of the night. The type of drive where you don’t see a soul on the road. It’s just you and the music. Your music player is the co-pilot. You’re living in the now, with only music and your thoughts for company; let them mingle.

Her lyrics aren’t just words, and I connect greatly with what she’s saying in “Before I Ever Met You.” If you haven’t experienced it, you know someone who has – a relationship that has reached the end of its course. After the break-up, haven’t we all wondered what our lives would be like without the experiences we’ve shared with that person? Maybe it’s the best for those experiences to just be memories of the past.

The thing is, this song doesn’t expose the sound of sorrow despite it’s subject matter. Its level of perceived darkness will vary depending on the mood you’re in and how closely you listen to the lyrics.

This was Banks’s first single, and she has since released several more great singles and 2 EPs. This song is featured on Fall Over, released in 2013. Her style varies, but there’s a definite mellow presence throughout. While she sticks to lower notes in “Before I Ever Met You,” many of her songs feature the other end of the pitch spectrum.

As is the case of my drive the other night, music makes a lot of situations bearable. When you find an artist like Banks, you’ll want her to stick around on your iPod for a while.

Banks – Before I Ever Met You